10/15/19 Should We Still Be Upset If Our 25 Year Old Runs Around Late?

    This was one of those BS weekends when my older son decides they are going to Dallas for some reason.  I try to give him space, he is 25 now, so we can't treat him like a little kid, I just wish he was better at being a human.  Everything was fine Friday night, they left before I got up and that is always one of Wife's demands when he travels.  Leave early so you aren't out on the road in the middle of the night.  This doesn't seem like something too demanding, but man, does it cause a rift between those two knuckleheads.  Boy always seems to have to wait for one of the members of his group to get out of work or school, so they usually are leaving later in the afternoon.  Sunday though, he really managed to piss her off by mostly being evasive.  She was wondering what time they would be coming back, so she called him and texted him and when he didn't respond she also tried Sweetie, who seems to be made of sugar and spice and everything nice, unless they are up to shenanigans.  Then all of a sudden even with their phones permanently attached to their hands, neither will respond.
    Wife kept trying them and I guess Boy finally got tired of hearing his phone buzzing that he answered only to tell Wife they were just leaving Dallas, at 10:00pm.  She was not happy about that because there is no good reason to wait that long to leave.  To add more worry to her, Boy did mention on the way up there, they had to stop and put air in one of the tires.  This is a reason for me to get upset because the vehicle tells him, he knew if he had a low tire all week, why wait until they are on the road?  What if he had a nail or just a slow leak?  That is what causes blowouts and then accidents that can get ugly fast.
    Still, in the end, I didn't say anything ugly to him.  I told Wife that other than being an idiot driving late, they aren't doing anything wrong.  At least we never have had to worry about them drinking and driving, they really don't partake in alcohol.  I did call him around 11:00pm to see that they were moving along and he was near Waco by then, so I told him to just be careful and get home safe.  He admitted time got away from them but he said they were moving good and there wasn't much traffic, but there was construction.
    What can we do?  He is going to do what he thinks is right.  He would rather please the GF than his parents at this point, so if she wants to stop and smell a flower by the side of the road and kill an hour, he will probably do it, we can just hope some of our teachings have sunk in his head and he attempts to stay safe when out there in the real world.