It sucks when you stand from afar and slowly see the accident developing ahead. Wife and I are witnessing it in slow motion and there is not much we can do but watch the stupidity of it all. One of our friends is pregnant, fine you would think, her choice. I would agree, but it is like she is not living in the United States, all of a sudden she found a tiny third world like country here in Austin.
First of all, the dude is thick, he doesn't want her relating to her family. Upon finding out she was with child, she was almost put in isolation. She quit working because of nausea, we heard nothing from her for a couple months, then one of our friends tells us she is living without water. No cable, or internet goes without saying. Then there was word she is without gas. These are necessities I don't even think of being without, including internet. When it was down for a day, we at least had 3G on our phones to hobble until we switched from Time Warner to U-Verse. If you don't have gas, you can't cook. No water, you can't wash, shower, flush your poop. How long before the flies show up?
Just to add insult to injury, when we had a bunch of rain about a month ago, they drove out to his job site, and while waiting to see if it would clear up or just go home, the place where they parked flooded enough that the engine failed. They had only had the car for a couple months, so they don't even have mobility. Is this a matter of bad luck, or are the gods saying get away from that situation?
They had a get together, and the family went and got her, she showed up barefoot, shoes don't fit anymore, little problems of being pregnant. You have to be able to afford a couple of shoes and changes in size, if you're going to take on child rearing. When we talked to her alone for a few minutes, she mentioned that they had detected two heartbeats initially, but one disappeared. Twins in this situation would be too much. I am pretty sure this kid is going to have a rough go, as it is.
She was talking to Wife tonight, that Christmas is going to be hard for the other little girl, the dude has from a previous relationship (of course). Wife said it is too late to sign up for Blue Santa and those types of programs. This is where it gets muddy for me, I could help, a couple of toys don't change me one way or the other, throw in some shoes and I hardly notice in the piles and piles of crap we buy for our boys. Then again, this dude has not made himself likable in any way, why should I give two craps about his daughter? But we've known our friend since she was a little kid, running around with Boy. The ex or mama of the little girl decided she wanted nothing to do with raising the girl, so our friend has become de facto mom. When she started the relationship we all said run, there is no win here, but stupid is as stupid does, even Forrest knows that.
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