Wife was talking to the parent's of one of Chub's buddies. She let on how her older kid is having a hard time since he moved to middle school. There is a group of kids that get in his face and I guess for lack of another word are bullying him. The kid has brought it up to the counselor a couple times and he was hesitating but finally told his parents. His mom went and asked the principal what was going to be done about it, and the principal seemed confused and his solution was to move the kid being bullied to a different class. This is the second time I hear of a situation where a kid is being bullied and the solution is to remove the bullied kid? Why? The asshole bullies should be getting displaced, preferably to alternative schools where they can bully on other bullies who aren't really interested in the whole learning process.
Back when Boy was in Elementary school, probably second grade, I would go pick him up every day, and since it was before 9/11, I could walk all the way up to his class and wait right outside. At one point, he said a couple of kids were giving him a hard time, eventually he pointed them out, and one day while the teacher was lining them up I eyeballed them and said something rough but without curse words like "why the hell are you messing with Boy?" The kids reacted like they didn't know what to do, and he never really had problems after that. I guess I was the bully in that scenario, but Boy was a little space cadet when he was little, he didn't bother anyone, he would rather chase bugs, than mess with other boys.
Chubs had a kid trying to mess with him in one of the after school programs he is involved in, but he handled him beautifully. The kid was saying that Chubs was the biggest kid around so he had to beat him up to be considered tough. Chubs said he was a tiny kid, and he kind of bounced him against the wall a couple times, in a kind of trip him and push him towards the wall. Chubs had another buddy in the class who likes to fight and he kept telling the kid "I'm bigger and I'll kick your butt." Not sure if he did it to defend Chubs and get the kid off of him or he just likes to throw down, but the kid has been over to the house, and I am hoping he sticks around. It's nice to have your own toughie when you need him, but I also loved that Chubs handled his business. He was also telling the teacher what was going on, he has no problem being a snitch, which we say good, because if he gets into a fight it is only going to be because he was provoked. We told him we will defend him quickly, no piece of shit kid is going to ruin his school experience, so use your size and punch away if someone wants to mess with you.
Really, the blame falls on our shitty society. Everybody wants to think they are special and unique, men aren't being men. They impregnate stupid/naïve girls who then try to raise babies when they aren't capable of raising hamsters. Eventually, the neighborhood is parenting the kid more than mama and that is where the problems start. Kids don't learn to talk through differences, they learn bigger kid on the block rules. Only way to be on top is to be the biggest shit around. Kids like this never even understand there is a whole bigger world than their zip code. We need to start accepting that not everyone is striving to grow up and go to college. There is a huge population that use school as a daycare, college is just a fantasy for many. Somewhere in junior high, we should be separating the student populations. If school is just a nuisance, fine, learn a craft, and get out of the system and start making money. Leave the confines of learning for those that appreciate the nuance between their, there, and they're.
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