8/25/22 Through Turmoil, We Learn And Grow?

     This is one of the rougher parts of being a parent, and sometimes the best thing we can do is nothing.  Through no fault of their own, sometimes our babies find themselves in situations they must deal with.  One of those, is when things don't turn out the way we thought they should, or things don't go according to plan.  Our first response might be to go in and try to mediate the problem, to help our kid get their way, because we think that is the way it should have been.  This might make things better in the moment, but it does not help the kid learn that life doesn't always go your way, sometimes life gets in the way and how you deal indicates what kind of person you will be growing up.

    We have become friends with a parent on the booster club, and she is very high energy and a person that gets things done, much like Wife without a filter.  Wife and I love our boys, they are our most important things, but even then, we aren't here to live their lives and protect them every step of the way.  We realized early that the best thing for them, was to let them experience the highs and the lows.  This mom means well and is very passionate about her kid, but she seems to be doing too much.  She doesn't want her daughter to experience any of the lows, instead, she tries to "correct" things in the background, so her daughter ends up on top.  

    This would be like us trying to change things for Mijo, right now, with his injury, trying to make things right, and finding ways to get him on the field before he is ready.  We could, maybe inject him with a steroid shot in the knee, so he wouldn't feel the pain, this might get him playing, but there is the possibility he gets injured worse, and then what?  For our shortsightedness, he could end up with a long-term injury, because we wanted him to get a short cut and be happy right now?  Sometimes, the best thing is to do nothing.  

She thinks her daughter should have more ranking or status on the team she is participating in, and maybe she is right, but the decisions have been made.  If she were to go and demand a recount, or get the leaders removed, what would the girl learn?  Mama won't always be there to help her get her way, and honestly, the daughter seems fine with where she is at.  I believe it is more of mom's ego wanting her daughter on top, maybe she was the leader or captain back in the day, so her girl should be the same, but sometimes life doesn't go like we planned it in our heads.