11/15/16 Crushing Like A Big Man?

    Chubs surprised me a little last week with his first story of having a crush on a girl and reacting to it.  I had heard his friends talk about "well what about the girl you like", and him acting like a goofy kid falling on the other kid and telling him to shut up when he has his sleepovers.  When we asked about it, he acted like no, he doesn't like any girls.  He started asking "what do you do when you like a girl, Dad?"  I told him it is perfectly normal at his age to start noticing girls as girls and not just buddies.  I also told him not to worry about how he proceeded, he could have a relationship where they only talk at school, maybe he walks her to classes.  He could be more serious and ask her to go to the movies, or walk around the mall, or even to play video games at the house.  You should only do what you're comfortable doing, never feel like you are competing with your friends who have girlfriends.  I wasn't sure how he took the information.
    Friday, last week, he was pretty excited telling me as soon as he got in the truck that he had talked to a girl and told her he liked her.  She said cool, and they kept doing whatever activity they were doing in class.  They got handed lollipops and he said he offered her his, mostly because he didn't like the flavor, and she took it.  He said she asked for his number and meant to give it to her, but got distracted at end of class and didn't do it.  They can communicate though through one of the games they play on their phones, so I told him to keep talking.  He seemed hesitant, he was just proud of hurdling that first challenge.  He said he didn't have a choice, either he spoke up or one of his friends was going to tell her.  I guess it's good to have friends that push you, otherwise he could be sitting on his thoughts for a long time.
    It turns out the little girl already has a boyfriend, which I told him just to wait.  At their age nobody stays with one person for too long.  He seems okay with it.  Wife offered to change his party to a boy/girl party instead of his buddies, and he quickly said no!  Chubs might like a girlie, but his plans for his birthday already sound pretty good.  We are supposed to take his boys to Jumpoline on Saturday for a while, then he wants us to treat the boys and him to Salt Lick Saturday afternoon.  Following that, he'll have a sleepover to start the Thanksgiving break.
    I'm proud of him.  He let the little girl know he liked her and then didn't let the outcome crush him.